WHY CAN’T YOU JUST BE LIKE YOURSELF?
There’s no denying that our parents have a certain endearing quality about them. They make it possible for us to have comfortable lives, nice houses, and satisfying careers. When they love, they give it their all. But, unfortunately, they tell us our whole lives that we should be like the Joneses next door.
You should be like him, so why can’t you? Why don’t you copy his gait if you wish to impress others? Why don’t you mimic his tone of voice? Compared to him, why aren’t your grades higher?
SOCIAL OBLIGATIONS AGAINST JUST BEING YOU!
What, you want to be a writer while Mr. Alonso’s daughter is a doctor? In your opinion, what will people say?
So, you want to talk about society.
The same culture that invents fictitious norms employs psychological tricks to force us to conform to them. Use your parents to your advantage by getting them to push you to go after your goals. In other words, please understand me. I don’t hate adults or society, but do they know the stress that being a teenager brings?
WOULD SHE LOVE YOU IF YOU DON’T BE YOU?
But enough about it; now is not the day for such a discussion. Today, I want to discuss romance.
A feeling of love that we look to our parents for but never receive. Love has the power to build us up rather than tear us apart. Love with the ability to alter one’s entire world.
MY REAL-LIFE EXPERIENCE OF BEING ME!
Many bad things happened to me when I was a 16-year-old girl. It has nothing to do with the fact that I came from a dysfunctional household or was raised by inept adults because of low self-esteem, anxiety, panic attacks, and sadness.
To put it simply, I excelled in the classroom. In reality, I excelled in school. But, despite this, it was not enough. In the eyes of society… well, the community again, nobody is breaking news.
SO BE LIKE YOU EACH TIME, EVERY DAY!
Our parents don’t understand that we’re depressed and just assume we’re being lazy and dramatic. We have meaningless arguments to avoid having to do anything challenging. We are not behaving in the usual manner.
They tell us they love us, and they do. But they need the love in their way, and we need it in ours. We need them to comprehend why we’ve taken to acting so strangely. We’re not sure why we suddenly don’t want to go to school. The daytime slumber must end. When did we stop eating with the family?
We’d rather understand the reasoning behind it than simply label it.
WHY IT IS DIFFICULT TO BE YOURSELF IN SOCIETY?
We can’t separate our parents from the norms of the larger community. For example, boys aren’t allowed to show emotion, which is expected of girls. It’s wrong for a girl to act like a boy and bad for a boy to act like a girl. Despite my protestations to the contrary, this whole thing is about society and its illogical and unnatural norms and expectations, so I could talk about them.
Most people are depressed because they don’t feel like they belong anywhere in society. People with long-term depression may be so weak from it that they can’t get better.
PROBLEMS ARISE WITH EVERYONE!
We’re done talking about young adults. So, adults, let’s have a chat. Which inspirational speech have you heard the most often as a young adult? Is it? To be yourself or to imitate you? The irony is that the same cultural and social standards that pressure us to succeed at everything and act a certain way for the rest of our lives also insist that we be true to who we are.
But by this point, we’d already forgotten our own identities. Our parents probably believed that we should grow up to be doctors, engineers, and bankers. The lessons they impart to us are designed to make us conform to the behavior of others. Later, when parents begin to understand that we have mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder, they insist that we just be ourselves. Sorcery!
FINALLY, JUST BE YOU!
I’ll be honest: I still need to remember the original point of this essay. But this will be my last statement.
Hey, civilized world, we can’t be who we used to be. You’re not witnessing any sort of magic. But if you stop expecting us to play so many roles, we might find out who we are again.
